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Why You Aren’t as Clear as You Should Be

confusedAs I’ve written before, clarity is one of the most important factors in persuasive communication. It gives you credibility and ensures that your intent is transferred as accurately and efficiently as possible. So why can it be so hard to achieve?

The core idea of clarity is that if you want to be clear, you have to work hard so that others won’t have to. This sounds harsh, but it’s hard to think of a good reason for being unclear. If you’re not clear, you could be confused, lazy, or even worse.

Confused: This the most common reason for lack of clarity. How many times have you heard or read an explanation that made perfect sense to you—until you tried to explain it to someone else? Until you actively try to explain something, you can’t be sure you understand it. This applies just as much to explanations in our own heads; they always make perfect sense until put into words. You have not thought the issue through carefully enough to explain it simply, or you have overshot your available facts. Although Einstein never actually said, “if you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough”, there is a lot of wisdom in that statement.

Lazy: You don’t take time to refine your own understanding and expression; you just say or write the first sloppy draft that forms in your mind. It’s amazing how much a two-second pause to think before answering a question can clarify your answer. In addition, many things can be made much clearer to your listeners if you first take the time to find  out how much they  already know, why they need the information, and figure out ways to use their language and analogies that will resonate.

Selfish: Your primary purpose is not to benefit the other person, but to advance your own interests, generally to make yourself seem smarter or more important in the other’s estimation. You are more focused on sounding good than being understood, more worried about seeming smart than making the other person be smart.

Afraid: Even in our egalitarian society, there can be clear distinctions in status among individuals, which I often reflected in our speech patterns. Lower status individuals tend to mitigate their speech, saying things indirectly to avoid offending a higher-status person. The problem has even been linked to plane crashes, which is why  the aviation industry has instituted a training program in crew resource management to eliminate it.

Dishonest: You’re trying to cover up the truth or the fact that you don’t know the truth. You may be generating FOG on purpose. That’s the acronym coined by L.J. Rittenhouse, in his book, Investing between the Lines; it stands for “fact-deficient, obfuscating generalities”, and it’s a staple of many annual reports.

 

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Some Random Thoughts

A few ideas occurred to me over the weekend for blog posts but none are big enough for a full post.

Isn’t it funny when the things you “don’t have time for”, suddenly become the most important things you have to do? For example, in January I offered to introduce Friend A to Friend B because Friend A was unsure about his job situation, and could use the advice and contacts of Friend B. Friend A was too busy to pick up the phone in January, but last week he lost his job and suddenly talking to Friend B was the most important item on his agenda. Like the lifeboats on the Titanic, he went from an afterthought to a critical necessity in a blink.

I find nothing as boring as listening to someone drone on about their theories on nutrition, and why this one ingredient will lengthen/shorten my life. Why do they spend so much time worrying about what they put into their bodies and so little thinking about what they put into their minds?

Woody Allen’s quote that showing up is 80% of life[1] is probably in need of an update. I think that maybe 80% of life is simply replying, even if only to say “thank you”, or even “Sorry, I’m not interested.”

Some industries overly complicate their critical success factors. The Miami Dolphins account manager who was trying to get me to renew my season tickets for a 28th season was talking at length about the wonderful marketing improvements they’re making for this season. I told him sports marketing is not that difficult: just win a few more games. (It’s like my formula for air travel: as long as the number of takeoffs and landings are equal, everything else is just details.)

I have to end on a positive note. John Spence is always saying that you become who you surround yourself with, and it’s clear that he lives what he preaches. I had the privilege of attending his 50th birthday party last Saturday night, and I was blown away by the smart, dynamic and caring friends who showed up. It was an honor and a pleasure to be there.

 


[1] Not that there’s proof he actually said it.

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10 Honest Footnotes You’ll Never See

The most common phrase used by people (presenters, bloggers, the guy on the next barstool, etc.) who want to establish their credibility is “studies show”, followed closely by “it’s been scientifically proven that…” (In case you want to know where I got that statistic, see footnote #10)

On rare occasions, they actually show us the studies, or provide a useful reference in the footnotes, but they usually leave off the original source, because this is what their footnotes would look like if they were being completely honest:

¹Another blogger said it

²I asked three of my friends, and two agreed with me

³Got this one from a marketing white paper

?Doesn’t prove anything, but these colored pictures of a brain make it look official

?Malcolm Gladwell said it, so it must be true

?From the internet

?My 7th grade science teacher told me—I think

?Based on a minor study from 50 years ago and blown wildly out of proportion

?Since been proven wrong in a dozen other studies that no one has read

¹?I pulled this one right out of my ____

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Lean Communication: Making Work Visible

ProgressIn lean manufacturing, making work visible is about organizing work so that everyone involved is clear at all times what the status of work is, and the most important next steps are obvious. As I’ve written earlier, the core of lean is the development of awareness of value and waste, and you can’t be aware of what you can’t see.

In lean communication, it’s about structuring your message so that a) you can see clearly what you’re saying, and b) your listeners can too. You need a clear structure that exposes your logic so you more can easily spot flaws and gaps, and correct them before someone else does for you. That structure also makes it more likely that listeners will get the meaning you intend, not the one that they might infer.

If it means outlining a long message or presentation, so be it. Mindmapping might also help, but a traditional outline is usually better because you still have to speak sequentially. Besides outlining as you prepare your remarks, you can “tell them what you’re going to tell them.” (But I don’t recommend telling them what you told them, if you can see that they got it—that would violate the pull principle of lean communication.)

If it means following a template, there’s nothing wrong with that either. Templates keep you from reinventing the wheel every time you speak and ensure you don’t miss anything critical. The best template is the one that systematically answers the likely questions in the audience’s mind.

Besides having a clear structure, it helps even more to make the structure visible by having signposts and highlights while you’re speaking. For example, if someone asks you what could delay your project, you might say: “There are three possible risks. The first is…”

By making it easy for others to follow you’re adding value, reducing waste, and making yourself appear more credible at the same time.

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