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The Age of Reason: Time for a Reboot?

Aristotle told us long ago that there are three means of persuasion: logos, pathos and ethos. The most important, he said, is ethos, or how the audience perceives the speaker personally.

After 2500 years, and having passed through an Age of Reason and a scientific revolution, surely things would be different. Logos should carry the day – what is said is surely more important than who says it. But there was a vivid demonstration last week of how powerful ethos still is.

The lesson was brought home by a high school valedictorian speaking to his graduating class in Kentucky. Bell County, in which his school is located, voted 82% for Donald Trump in 2016, so Bowling was on safe ground when he uttered this quote:

“ ‘Don’t just get involved. Fight for your seat at the table. Better yet, fight for a seat at the head of the table.’ — Donald J. Trump.”

According to an article in the Washington Post, the crowd “went wild” and their applause almost drowned out Bowling’s next statement: “I’m kidding. I’m kidding. That was Barack Obama.”

At that point, the applause immediately died and someone even booed.

Although the sample size was only one statement, it was an elegant experiment. Holding the message constant (logos), and changing only the source, Bowling demonstrated dramatically the power of ethos: how the audience’s perception of the source affects the persuasiveness of the message.

Although the foils in this little experiment/practical joke were Trump supporters, I suspect the same thing would have happened if the quotes were reversed. Maybe some bold valedictorian in a blue county might be willing to put it to the test?

Maybe it’s time for another Age of Reason.

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Any Book Worth Reading Is Worth Reading at Least Twice

A lot of business pundits and bloggers like to brag about how many books they read, and I have been guilty of that myself. For many years I’ve taken pride in the quantity of books I’ve read, in some years averaging up to two books per week. I’ve learned a lot of useful stuff through all that reading, but I also know that the vast majority of my reading has probably gone completely to waste.

The thought struck me a couple of weeks ago when my nephew mentioned a book he is reading, Sea Power by Admiral James Stavridis. I said, “Yeah, that’s a good book, I read it a few months ago.” Then I tried to reflect what specifically I had learned from it, and it was difficult to recall more than just a few scattered observations. There are even some books—and I hate to publicly admit this—that I’ve bought more than once, because I forgot that I had read them several years before!

On the other hand, there are many books that I’ve read more than once, either in their entirety or by having repeatedly used them as a reference, and I recall and use most of what’s important in those books. That’s why I’ve decided that any book worth reading is worth reading at least twice.

In lean thinking terms, there is a huge amount of waste in the reading that I’ve done, and I suspect yours as well. There are at least three forms of waste. The first is what I’ve already described: the forgetting curve ensures that I lose a lot of the valuable knowledge I do acquire.

Second, especially for difficult material, it’s unlikely that I got the full meaning the author was putting across. For a book to be worth reading, it should challenge your thinking in some way, and that means that it should not be easy to pick up its depth and nuance in a single pass through it. If a very smart and wise person said something important to you, you would likely think about it, ask questions, clarify, etc. and that is something you can do with a book by re-reading. When it’s worthwhile and challenging, reading is not enough: you have to study it.

Third, I’ve wasted a lot of time reading material that was not worth recalling. The corollary to this rule, of course, is that if the book is not worth reading, it’s silly to waste any time finishing it.

Besides reducing waste, one more important reason to re-read a book is that, if you let enough time pass between readings, you may be a different person in many ways the second time around. You’ve learned more, acquired new and different knowledge structures, and will probably understand it differently when you read it again. It’s especially fascinating at times to encounter passages I’ve highlighted or read my own comments in the margins, and wonder what I was thinking at the time!

So, read that worthwhile book twice at first to ensure that you’ve squeezed the value out of it, then set it aside and pick it up again after some time has passed. I’m doing that right now with Tom Morris’ book, If Aristotle Ran General Motors, which I read twenty years ago. I can’t wait to see how the 60 year old me reads it differently than the 40 year old version.

And it doesn’t apply just to non-fiction. I’ve gotten a ton of enjoyment from reading novels more than once. It’s amazing how much of the story you only semi-remember, and it’s fascinating to pick up on different details on the second or even third pass. A lot of people watch movies multiple times, so why not books, which are even more densely packed? I have read all 20 of Patrick O’Brian’s Master and Commander series three times, and I know I’m not done with them.

Which books have you found worth reading recently? When will you re-read them?

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Max Cred Factor #1: Credentials

When you buy a book, do you judge it by its cover? Of course you do, even if you deny it. The title, the design, and most importantly, the status of the author, all influence your initial perception and may even determine whether you pick it up and examine it more deeply.

Credentials are the first of our Seven Cs of Max Cred because they are your book cover: they often precede you into your persuasive communication encounter and send signals that influence your credibility before you even open your mouth. In a sense, credentials are your “pre-paid credibility.”

Credentials may be your minimum ticket price to personal credibility, because without some credentials you probably won’t get an audience. Your credentials tell the listener why you are better qualified to speak about the topic than anyone else in the room. They are something you have already earned that contributes to credibility, but the audience still decides how to perceive them and how much weight to place on them to grant belief.

Credentials confer status and authority. Your actual and perceived credentials make it easier for listeners to accept your ideas because they give you an elevated status relative to that particular topic. People won’t easily yield in their opinions to someone they consider equal or below them, but they tend to defer to authority, so they may open their minds to someone who has a superior claim.

Credentials are relatively objective and measurable: a PhD outweighs a Master’s, a Master electrician is more credible than a journeyman, a professional athlete is more credible than a weekend warrior. Because credentials are measurable, they also make it safe for others to rely on you, because if the decision goes wrong for some reason, they can show that they exercised prudence and care. That’s why a lot of corporate buyers are heavily biased in favor of established brand names.

What constitutes a valid credential?

You can think of your credentials as your personal value proposition for why they should listen to you. What special advantage do you have that makes you the person most qualified to be speaking about that particular topic to that audience at that time? There are a number of ways to differentiate yourself:

Education/certification: These are what most people think of as formal credentials. Influence expert Robert Cialdini tells the story of when he consulted with a group of physicians’ assistants who were frustrated by their patients’ failure to follow their instructions to exercise. He noted that their examination room did not have any credentials on the wall, and suggested they post their diplomas. According to Cialdini, the PAs “reported a huge difference in patient compliance.”[1]

Titles: A title carries a lot of weight with just one word. To demonstrate the amazing power of a title, researchers once posed as doctors and called 22 separate nurses’ stations and prescribed a drug to patient over the phone. Despite the fact that the nurses did not see the doctor, the drug was not on the authorized list, and the dosage was twice the maximum daily dose, 95% of nurses tried to comply with the order until stopped by an observer!

Experience: The amount and quality of experience both matter. You may have been at it longer than others in the room, or you may have unique experience. There’s almost no limit to what experience is relevant, depending on what the situation is. I delivered a speech once about toxic sales environments, and led off by telling the audience about how I once got fired for doing the right thing for a customer.

Organization or Brand:  In another experiment noted by Cialdini, researchers took 12 articles that had been accepted previously by journals, changed the only the name of the authors’ prestigious universities, and resubmitted them. Of the nine that were not detected, all but one were rejected.  Think about that: the readers of these journals are educated, sophisticated individuals, and yet they changed their judgment based only on the brand.

Special expertise/information/research: You have specific information that no one else in the room has. The strongest special expertise credential is personal eyewitness testimony, but anyone who takes extra time to learn a topic more thoroughly than others can create their own credentials.

Commonality with the group: Groups tend to give more credibility to “one of us”. I tell salespeople in my classes that, as a small business owner, I know only too well what it’s like to work on full commission. You can speak for them because you’re one of them; but you are also different enough that they should listen to you.

Your look: Rationally, how you look should have no bearing on the quality and truth of your message, but it actually has a lot to do with it.

You can’t do much about your physical appearance, but you can control what you wear and how you wear it, and it can definitely affect your credibility, especially in business. Joe Navarro, a former FBI agent and jury consultant, says men in ”business uniform” are perceived by jurors as being more honest and reassuring.

It’s not about spending a lot of money on clothes or wearing an expensive watch. The most important thing is to be neat and well-groomed, and look as if you care. As Navarro says, casualness can kill credibility, according to focus group studies.

On the other hand, being too formal can have its drawbacks, if you are dressed too differently from everyone else. The rule of thumb I’ve always followed in my training is to dress one level up from the group norm. If they’re casual, I’ll wear slacks and a long sleeve shirt; if in business casual, I will wear a sports coat, and so on.

How to present your credentials

For one reason, the paradox of status is that while people respect it, they don’t like it rubbed in their faces. Even in the US where we have a high tolerance for braggadocio, it can get tiresome. Just this week I heard a lawyer presenting to our City Commission use at least half his allotted three minutes to telling them what a great lawyer he was. He mentioned the fact that he had tried two cases in front of the Supreme Court, then went on to recite his years of experience, some big cases he had worked on, and his various certifications. I remember thinking at the time that he had me at the word “court” and then lost me when he kept going way beyond that.

Yet, if you do have strong credentials, it’s foolish not to let your audience know about them. Max Cred is about getting every possible advantage, so let’s look at ways to make sure your credentials are known without harming your credibility.

Have someone else toot your horn. If it’s a formal presentation, it’s a good idea to have your sponsor introduce you to the group and tell them your credentials. There are two advantages to this. The first is that you don’t come across as too full of yourself.  Second, it’s more believable coming from someone else, even if they know that person has a vested interest in touting you

But if you get someone to introduce you, don’t leave it to chance. Make sure you have gone over with them how they should introduce you; even better, write out the points you want them to make.

Weave them in. The most subtle way to present your credentials is to imply them by the use of stories, examples and questions that demonstrate to the audience that you have “been there and done that.” I often open my sales training classes by telling the story of the day that I accidentally learned the most important key to sales. I remember one time in North Carolina when I told that story to skeptical group, and one sales manager said, “Boom! That’s worth the entire class!”

Questions also work well, especially when you ask them about an issue they face that is not common knowledge. I’ve often found in my initial sales calls that there’s always a turning point and a palpable difference in the room when the prospect says, “That’s a good question.”

Don’t overreach. The quickest way to shatter your credibility is to overpromise and underdeliver, which you can prevent by being clear—first of all to yourself—about what you can and can’t do.

Be transparent about your weaknesses. Don’t overspend your credentials; be open about conflicts of interest if asked or even before… One of the occupational hazards of being asked to speak on account of your expertise is the audience’s suspicion of your motives. There’s nothing wrong with being paid to speak on behalf of someone, but you should always be transparent about it.

Frame your credentials. I don’t specialize in a specific industry so when people ask me how much expertise I have in their industry, I usually have to tell them it’s roughly zero. But then I tell them that allows me to bring a fresh approach and ask the stupid questions that may not sometimes turn out to be so stupid after all.

Show, don’t tell. This may sound funny in a chapter on credentials, but I truly believe that your best credential is a cogent argument, and that brings us to the next of the Seven Cs: Content.

ACTION STEPS AND POINTS TO PONDER

  1. Prepare the perfect introduction you would like someone to use in your next presentation.
  2. Write down one or two stories you can use as an opener to demonstrate your credentials without actually stating them.
  3. Write down several opening questions that will demonstrate your competence on the topic.

[1] Influence: Science and Practice, Robert Cialdini…

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Max Cred: How to Build and Preserve Your Most Precious Asset

Some of you may remember some old commercials for a brokerage house called E.F. Hutton. They would show two guys talking in a crowded place, such as a restaurant or a golf tournament. One guy would say, “My broker is E.F. Hutton, and E.F. Hutton says…” Immediately everyone around them would stop what they were doing and listen intently.

What if people did that every time you opened your mouth? That would be what I call Max Cred. If you’re a knowledge worker, your personal credibility is your most precious asset. It’s not your knowledge, which is worthless if others don’t believe what you say; it’s not your eloquence, if others don’t listen; it’s not your power, if others only agree grudgingly. Like any asset, you want to preserve it, grow it, and put it to work.

That’s because unless you’re a dictator, hermit or independently wealthy, so much of what you need or want to do in life depends on getting things done through other people, and your ability to influence others is directly correlated to how much they rely on what you tell them. Credibility opens doors, gets attention, influences decisions, and makes it safe for others to act on what you tell them. Simply put, credibility drives results.

Everybody wants to matter, which simply means being able to influence others’ thoughts, beliefs, decisions and actions. In turn, that means that every speaker wants the audience to believe them: what they say and how they feel about the topic at hand. This can be easy to achieve for low-stakes, mundane topics, but it can be very difficult to achieve when asking someone to take a risk, expend a large cost, or change deeply-held beliefs. That’s when you need every advantage you can muster to compel belief.

Credibility is critical because:

  • Most proposals aren’t “provable” based only on facts, so decision makers will rely to some extent on how credible they perceive you to be in making your case.
  • It allows you to punch above your weight class by giving you influence above and beyond your job title.
  • It makes you worth listening to. Everybody is distracted nowadays, so you have to give them a reason to invest their attention in you.
  • It saves you time, because you don’t need to spend as much time and effort to convince others. You get fewer questions and micromanagement.
  • If you’re a leader, you can’t rely on authority alone, because that doesn’t get the best work out of people.

What does max cred look and sound like?

Your credibility level can range from zero to max, and of course it depends on the situation or the topic at hand. What does max cred look like? When you open your mouth to speak in a meeting, people pay attention, like in the E.F. Hutton commercial. What does max cred sound like? When you say “Because I said so”, or some more tactful variant of that phrase, people treat it as hard data.

We all know that “because I said so” is not a valid reason for doing things, but in reality we rely on it all the time. Think about it from the point of view of a CEO listening to a technical presentation in order to make an important decision. The topic can be very complicated for a non-specialist, and it requires a lot of effort to understand all the nuances. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman tells us that when the mind is faced with a tough decision, it often falls back on answering an easier question. In this case, the easier questions often is: “Do I believe this person?” “Does she sound like she knows what she’s talking about?”

The CEO’s mind sees that as an easier questions because he is unconsciously processing a lot of cues—in her content, her confidence, the language she uses, her motivations, etc. By the way, that’s not a flaw—it’s a necessary shortcut in the mind and a design feature in the organization. The whole reason many people have jobs in organizations is because the person running the place can’t know everything. If the CEO had to fact-check every presentation and master every topic, she would never get anything done. So, credibility is not just a crucial personal asset, but an organizational one as well.

Put another way, max cred means that others strongly rely on your statements and your judgment to make decisions, and they weight them more heavily than other sources. They accept it quickly and are less likely to question it.

For example, I get a lot of emails from Amazon touting newly released books. If I’m familiar with the author’s previous work and hold a favorable opinion of it, I spend less time reading reviews or perusing the table of contents before deciding whether to buy. At the time that I write this, I have already pre-ordered books by Steven Pinker and Hans Rosling, almost without even reading the book descriptions.

In my own work, credibility is critically important. A major part of my work is teaching professional salespeople and the rest usually involves teaching engineers, who can be deeply skeptical and data-driven. Salespeople can be a demanding audience because they want to know that whoever dares to teach them something new has carried the bag, has experienced the same difficulties, solved the same problems, and had the same or greater success that they have.

When I first began my training career, I had less direct experience than a lot of my students, and I was perhaps overly conscious of my perceived lack of qualifications, so I had to figure out ways not only to quickly get up to speed but to survive until I got there.

While I made plenty of credibility mistakes in the early years, over time, both through learning from those mistakes and through my successes, plus a lot of reading what the top experts have to say about it, I’ve uncovered ways to develop and preserve max cred.

What is credibility?

The answer to this question may seem as simple as Justice Potter’s definition of pornography: “I’ll know it when I see it,” but if we stop there it won’t help us figure out how to improve it. So let’s give it a shot:

Credibility is an impression formed in the mind of your listener at the time of communication about the extent to which they can rely on what they hear from you to shape their thoughts, influence their decisions, or inspire their actions.

Credibility is not something you “have”, it’s something that others “give” you every time you communicate with them. You can have truth, but no credibility unless others accept it as true. That means that it may be different for every person, because they have different standards and perceptions; Because of this, it’s not a universal quality, it’s situation-specific. Others may deem you to be credible on a certain topic in a particular situation, but not in another.

This is an important distinction because it makes you realize that every situation is different, and that you have to work to establish belief in the minds of your audience every single time. Just when you begin to take it for granted, it can be destroyed in an instant. It actually exists outside of yourself; it’s something that others give you or don’t, because of credentials you’ve earned, what you say or do, and how you say or do it.

Credibility is not binary; it’s like the difference between an on/off switch and a dimmer switch. People don’t ask themselves if you’re credible, they ask themselves how credible you are. In other words, they are calculating a probability judgment about the likelihood that what you’re saying is true and useful.

Credibility is closely related to trust, but it’s not exactly the same thing. At least in the way I define it and approach it in this book, credibility relates to the communication aspect, how much people can rely on what you say. Trust is bigger, it also includes how much they can rely on what you do.

What makes you credible?

It’s going to take this whole series to adequately answer this question, but let’s get an overview.

As far as we know, the Greeks were the first to study credibility formally, which made sense since their form of government was the first to rely on persuasion rather than pure force. Democracy in ancient Athens was very direct; if you wanted a law passed you went to the agora and delivered a speech yourself. Aristotle called it ethos and said it was the most important of three means of persuasion, along with logos and pathos. According to him, an audience perceived a speaker’s ethos by asking three questions:

  • Does the speaker have good sense?
  • Does the speaker have good character?
  • Does the speaker have goodwill?

More recently, psychologists have studied credibility more scientifically and systematically. Using a statistical technique called factor analysis, researchers have teased out the various factors that affect perceived credibility. There are According to professors Robert Gass and John Seiter, there are three primary dimensions which apply generally, and three secondary dimensions which are situation-specific. The primary dimensions are expertise (aka competence or qualification), trustworthiness (character or integrity) and goodwill (cares about me). The secondary dimensions are extroversion, composure, and sociability.[1]

As you’ll see, I’m going to explain credibility in large part using a combination of Aristotle, modern psychology, and personal experience gained from three decades studying and teaching persuasive communication in practical business applications. That allows us to break down the mystery of credibility into specific elements which can be improved or strengthened with preparation, practice, and growing skill.

Taken altogether, we have the “Seven Cs” of Max Cred:

  • Credentials
  • Content
  • Clarity
  • Confidence
  • Connection
  • Caring
  • Cultivating

ACTION STEPS AND POINTS TO PONDER

  1. Think of someone whom you find to be especially credible. What are the strengths they show relative to the Seven Cs?
  2. Think of someone whose credibility you question. What are the weaknesses they show relative to the Seven Cs?
  3. For the next few days, pay attention to others as they communicate in meetings or directly with you, mentally apply the Seven Cs checklist to them.
  4. Think about your own interactions with others, and apply the Seven Cs to yourself.
  5. List your areas for improvement and keep those in mind as you listen to this series.

 

[1] Persuasion, Social Influence and Compliance Gaining, Robert H. Gass, John S. Seiter, p. 79.

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